Sometimes it is not the case that someone isn’t the one. It is often not their time yet. Trust in destiny and divine timing.
Even if they are destined to be your divine mate in the future, live for now.
Take a look at some of the big red flags that mean it is probably healthier to not be with this person. Again, don’t look at this lists as a bunch of obligations. Think, ‘the more I love myself, the less I am going to settle for a relationship with someone who shows these signs.’ Ahem…
A) you’re living your life by shoulds” instead of following your bliss.
B) you don’t sense your entire soul blueprint within the other person.
C) they aren’t true to themselves
D) they don’t respect and act accordingly to your needs.
E) they feel like you aren’t really for them so they keep having to “own” you physically and constantly exercise ownership over you by telling you how to act, dress, behave.
F) you’re more advanced than then in a multidude of them and don’t feel at one with their main spiritual and mental and emotional self.
G) they settle for less and the mundane whil you settle for more and feel destined to do bigger, better things instead of just “playing it safe.”
H) you see parts of yourself in him but not your full core self- you feel like you just dont quite have the same soul/life mission. Just because a part of you feels like you’ve known the other person in another life or that you have a soul connection , doesn’t mean that a soulmate is akin to your divine lover. A soulmate can come in the form of a friend, a mentor, your own parents even. It isn’t always about romance. It’s about people who come from your same soul tribe or stream. So evade the idea that you’re supposed to be with them just because you unexplicably feel close to them. Uhm, yes. The Divine put them there for you but that does not always mean they are necessarily meant to be your lover. Sometimes your just meant to be their guide especially at this moment
I)they don’t more than anything want to see you happy excited and at peace. Their main priority isn’t pleasing you and only you
J) you tell yourself you should “be yourself” around the person but and you do sometimes to prove a point to the other person but overall, you find that you can’t fully be yourself around the person because you know at some level, they won’t accept you as you are.
K) they are more interested in pleasing their ego and feeling good about themselves rather than wanting you to feel safe. Uhm, no thanks to that. Girl, you can do better. They should already feel good about themselves before they chose to come out and see you.
L) you keep making excuses for them treating you casually and in manipulative ways because you see the “potential” to be a better spouse. No no, honey. People aren’t fixer upper projects. If you feel called to guide them, be honest with yourself – tell them “i feel called to guide you and teach you a few things about life or too. I feel something isn’t balanced about you and that you don’t quite feel at peace. I am not ready for a romantic relationship with youbut I would be happy to give you advice as a friend because I care about you. Yes, I feel God brought us together and Im meant to play a part in your life somehow but not as a lover, -not right now at least.
M) if your definition of the “one” consists of who is the one to be in a relationship with, then this person is not the one if you feel separate from them instead of at one and unified with them. Forget about your divine mate- that’s God’s business. Forget about that definition of the one. Have self respect and stop being with this person if they don’t give two $***s about you feeling safe, comfortable, and happy. And trust that what’s meant to be will find a way eventually but force anything with someone who just isn’t emotionally available for YOU.
N) they run the opposite way from you emotionally even though see goodness in you mentally because they are not ready to face a truth about themselves and they are afraid their own “goodness” is a weakness that might be exploited which hints at
O) they don’t really believe in you and you ability to be genrally happy and successful. Your goodness to them is only so good, but not good enough because they don’t feel good enough thmeselves. Hah! No dear- do not settle for that.
P) they feel that they have to stick around to take goodness from you instead trusting they already have that same goodness within themselves. They just dull your shine in the process.
Q) they don’t accept you as you are.
R) they constantly expect something from you in return for their “taking care of you” physically but not always emotionally. Actually, they shouldn’t expect you to do anything for them period. The only thing Mr. Right should expect from you is to keep rocking the world with your awesome self😉 which he feels at one with, not separate from.
S) they feel like they need you around to feel good about themselves instead of trusting in DIvine will and fate.
T) you’ve given all your power away, magically hoping the Divine to make this person the one of your dreams instead of waking up, taking responsibility, and leaving the moment you
U) feel something is off. Even a little inkling of this “something-is-fishy feeling should be enough to say “hey buddy. Let’s be friends” yes anyone can change and miracles do happen but you don’t have to be with someone who isn’t safe and magically hope they will become this adorable littly kitty cat transformed orginally from a sneaky fox overnight. Save yourself the heartbreak and headache and leave the relationship. Just be friends dude. Stop breaking your own heart!
V) verbal promises and statement don’t match their actions consistently. They may say “sorry” for trying to hurt you or try to make you jealous ( hah- nice try buddy) but time and time again they do it again
W) which proves they don’t quite love thmselves since they live their life by “shoulds” and obligations yet “they don’t want to, instead of following their bliss. How can someone who doesn’t love themselves love you?
X) they are with you because they feel they should be with you instead of actual interest in your company. Maybe they are not crazy about you but they’ve convinced themselves “oh, she’s a good girl. I should be with a good person even though I’m crap myself.” Uhm no way, Jose. It’s nobodys job to babysit you and change you. A person can only inspire you. You have to change yourself.
Y) you constantly afraid you get into an argument so you refrain from expressing what’s on your mind with the person so that “everything” goes well and just hand all your power over to the Divine , hoping the Divine will fix the problem. Uhm, the Divine doesn’t want you to be tortured in a dead end toxic disrespectful relationship. You have to make that call and leave first, then go knocking on God’s door, but still take some responsibility into your own hands when you get the signs. We’re meant to be true to ourselves and act accordingly to how we feel at our core, not just watch everything like a play. We must be the actors our selves every now and then.
Z) zest for life is something you don’t feel with this person on a daily basis because they just don’t seem to support your goals, dreams, deepest wishes and desires. This is one of the biggest red flags. But it doesn’t end there.
Beyond Z) they don’t see their whole world in your eyes. Even more beyond Z) they wouldn’t willfully do virtually almost anything for you .
Infinity) he is still constantly easily entertained by hurting you. Infinity and beyond) they don’t see you. They may notice your goodness but not really appreciate it and even try to exploit it.they don’t get you .
And more) they doubt you’re the one or are unsure about you and try to make you feel like you’re not good enough for them
Plus) by rejecting you they feel better about themselves.